What is Love (Part 1)

William Shakespeare.

When I saw you I fell in love and you smiled because you knew…

Love is a four letter word that we repeat countless times in our lives, we search for it and when we find it, we would move mountains to keep it. Love is never ending, even in death; the love that we had for someone is forever strong and lives on in our hearts.

We all have a love story to tell, some end in tears and others are what great love stories are made of.

Love can be anything from the love and devotion shared between a husband and wife, after years of memories. The Love felt between two people who have barely known each other a month, but there is something between them that was felt in that first kiss.

The great poets spoke about love like it was something that was burnt into our destinies by the stars, something that even the angels were envious of.  Something as precious and delicate like that of the wings of a butterfly.

Love has always been a part of our lives, from the music we listen to, the movies we watch, the words we read. Love is the corner stone to everyone’s lives, whether you believe in it or not.

Whoever loved that loved not at first sight… William Shakespeare.

Romeo and Juliette

If Music be the food of love, play on.

Love is so powerful that people have and will kill for it. A crime of passion as it would be called. The pain caused by a lost love makes us do the most irrational of things. That feeling of actual heartache, and yes we have all probably felt and if not will still feel one day, because heartache is something we have to feel to appreciate the great love that is destined for us by the stars.  

We will cry for a lost love for years, many will regret letting someone go, because finding someone that you know that you can trust and that they will love you till the end, through thick and thin is one of the hardest things. 

Knowing that no matter what storm life throws at you, your loved one will be standing next to you, holding your hand strong telling you “we got this boo”

Love is something that even when it causes the most pain, it is in this exact moment that we see how really loved we are, by the people that actually matter in life. A best friend, a family member maybe even someone who has loved you but never had an opportunity to show you.

I asked a friend what  her take on love.

She told me that she has been in love, and she thought that it was real, but it could not have been because it had broken her. Now she still believes in love, but she is scared of it at the same time, if she feels that something might get serious, she often catches herself wanting to run.

Now I might be a silly girl, who loves love, and even though I have had my heart broken one to many times, I still do and probably always will believe that true love is unstoppable. That every heart break and every person who came into your life was supposed to and that one day the right person will step into your life and will make you forget about all the others.

Nothing, not time, distance or another person can stand in the way of true love, or your twin flame as a friend would put it.

It is often the people that we would never even consider that are there for us, family is usually the most obvious ones.

He stepped down, trying to not look at her, as if she were the sun, yet he saw her like she was the sun, even without looking.

Anna Kara Nina

Love is a major theme in countless  motion pictures and best sellers, there has to be a good reason for this.

People fought wars for the love of their nation, and when lives are lost, tears are shed for the loved ones life that was taken.

Gravity holds us to this world, why can’t love.

This is very cliche, but have you ever stopped and looked around when you are at the airport. There is so much love here, people collecting loved ones they have not seen in months, or loved ones leaving and tears of despair for a love that will be missed.

I pose a question… Do we know what love is, what real love is? I am sure that if we were to ask a group of people what is love? We would collect different answers and many would be completely different, if not all.

When I am close to you , we blend in to my favorite color.. Carly rae jepsen.

Can we actually put into words the true meaning of love, can we capture it and know exactly what we have. I think that many people spend their whole lives searching for something concert, when they should follow their hearts. If it feels right in your heart and saying those three little words feels right then it is love and you should never let it go

My brother said to me that he thinks that you never know what true love is until you no longer have it. So the saying you don’t know what you have until you no longer have it rings true for him.

 A heart to love and in that heart the courage to make love known. W.S

Love gives us the courage and strength to do things that we could not usually do. Love soothes all wounds and makes us feel complete, especially when it is true love, there will no longer be a feeling of doubt or fear. Just happiness and the thought of a future together. Love is the only things that can take all the pain away.

Someone told me that they viewed love as trust. I suppose that there has to be trust in any relationship in order for love to blossom and bloom year after year.

Without trust for another person how do we let into our lives and give them access to our insecurities and weaknesses. Love is about sharing everything with each other, the good and the bad.  Trust has to exist for that to happen.

I heard this and it really made me realize how strong love is between a mother and a child.

 A human body can bear only 45 del units of pain, yet at the time of giving birth a mother feels up to 57 del units of pain, this is similar to 20 bones being fractured at the same time. Can you imagine the pain felt and how much love there is between a mother and her child.

When a baby is born, they are often crying, fearful of this new world, but the moment they are in their parents arms they go silent, there small hands in there fathers, or mothers, the bond between parent and child is felt from the first moments on this earth and it is the only thing that soothes a child. The unconditional love of a parent. 

Love is a never ending story...  I will keep writing about it, even if I think I have found it, Love is ever changing, because in life, change is the only thing that is guaranteed 

BE STRONG

YOU DID NOT BREAK ME

A letter to the man who tried to destroy me, tried to take away my strength by using his own.

You thought that because you were bigger and stronger than me, that you could use that against me, like a true bully you did just that.

You took advantage of a girl who was sad, when she just needed someone to see that sadness and pain and protect her from the demons of the night; yet you saw it as an opportunity to rob her of her dignity and self-worth, you were the demon in the shadows,  that I needed protection from.

 You made me hate myself, and drew me further away from the world and made me close my heart off to ever letting anyone in, you made it harder to trust anyone.

You hurt me, in more ways than I have ever been hurt, you treated me like I was some small insignificant being that deserved no respect, and you might as well have spat on my face when you were done.

Hiding this secret from the people who were important to me, because I was ashamed, I felt like it was my fault. That somehow I had done this to myself, and I hated myself for ever having been there that night, for not being for observant to realizing that my drink was spiked. I did not want the people that I loved most in the world to hate me too.

But by hiding it I was giving you power, you were winning because I was no longer the strong woman I had always been. You had made me weak, you made me scared to believe in people and I lived in fear.   Speaking out gave me my strength back

The hardest part was when I had to see you in town, having you act like you had never met me before, like I was a stranger.  Well guess what, you have met me, and now I am your demon. You cannot wash away what you did with a smile. You might be able to fool the world around you but I know that you truly are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I may have been victimized, but I tell you now I am no victim. I am a warrior and I will prevail, with every tear I shed writing this, with every thought of self blame that I have to push away, you will become a memory of a time in life when I had find my inner strength.

For months I hid behind a fake smile and wall that nobody could penetrate, I hid from the truth thinking that if I hid for long enough, my demons would never find me and that I could eventually come out again. But those demons are your own, and until you face them you will forever be only a shell of the woman you really are. Come out of hiding and let us all stand together and face our demons, tell someone anyone, Start somewhere, until you talk about it, it will eat you alive. Some people may fall out of your life, and other will embrace you tighter, knowing that you just need a love and support

To end a letter to the man who thinks he destroyed me. You have not, you have made me into the strong woman I am, the woman who knows she can make it through any of life’s challenges.

You are no longer in the shadows, you are no longer a demon that plagues my nightmares and makes me cry. You are nothing more than a bad memory; you are your own demon now.

I forgive you for what you did. Whatever the reason was, you have to deal with it now. I no longer want this to be a burden in my life. I will live my life in happiness, with a man who loves me in spite of what happened to me, because it made me the strong independent woman I am.

You did not break me.

Ladies, if any of you feel like you have nowhere to turn, you have so many people who love you. You are beautiful and worthy of such love, do not ever think you are not worthy, or that you don’t deserve to be loved. What happened is not your fault and if anything we deserve to be loved more, because we will appreciate it so much. The hurt souls in the world have more compassion and we will love harder.

Speak out, be brave and have courage.

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