it has always been a known fact that woman get stressed more than men. We are more susceptible to depression, anxiety and getting panic attacks. The underlining question ha still not been answered, but as a woman, I think I might be able to shed some light on this question. There is much that is expected of us, before the 21st century, women were expected to cook, clean, look after the children, have more children and look after her husband. Getting any further education or work was just not done. Now though, women have jobs, sometimes more meaningful jobs then men, they also have a family and still cook, clean and look after the children. Women have evolved, but with this step up, the stress load is more. We also over think way to much into things, a small situation can be made into this huge problem, when there is really a very simple solution. We worry that we are not doing well enough, that we are not as good as somebody else. Self confidence for a women is a very big thing and we have so much to compete with, not only do we have to compete with men in the working field, but we have to compete with other women in the looks department, yes, you may find that funny, but none the less it is true.My boyfriend has often laughed at me, and said that every time another girl walks into the room or, walks by, I give her the look over. He claims that all girls give this look, and that we are summing other women up with regards to a mental list. The things on this list go as follows:
- Does she have a flatter tummy then me?
- Is she prettier than me?
- Does she have better legs than me?
- Is her hair shinier than mine?
- Has she got better skin than me?
- Would my boyfriend prefer her to me?
- Has she got a tighter bum than me?
- Is she dressed better than me?
These are the thing that are supposedly on this list, and then after we have given her the once over, we turn to our partners to see whether he noticed her and then we ask him what do you think? He claims that we are testing them to see whether they think anything on our mental list is true. I found this rather amusing, but sometimes it is true. Which is rather daft, but never the less true.Women put up this electric fence around them and every one that they love. We hold up the fort and try to protect everyone we love, we also try and please everybody and make everyone happy. We sometimes forget that we also need to be happy, and that sometimes life is not that bad. We often feel like the world is coming down on us, when it is not and all we need to do is just breathe.
