Positive outlook on life ....

Do you remember how you used to love the idea of living alone, in a flat with a group of friends? Just like in the movies. Well, it is nothing like that, you do not live all hunky dory, there are times when you just want to scream. I live with a group of people, and guys out number us girls. Three to two.  There is always a mess, and they consider themselves to be the Alfa dogs. It is nice, sure, not having a cur fue, being able to eat what you want. Do what you want and watch what you want. But living with other people is never easy, there will be fights but you just need to find a place where you can be alone with your thoughts. Moving away is hard enough as it is, but when you are surrounded by thoughtless people, it can be even harder.

Setting up ground rules is very important, if people know where you draw the line, they will be less likely to cross it. Thus letting you live a bit happier. I have had a lot of people tell me, that I must not let anyone take advantage of me, I must not become the maid for everybody and I must stay true to myself. When you leave home it is important to always stay true to yourself. I am finally feeling happy and content with how life is turning out, being alone is not as bad as it seems. Sure you have to fend for yourself, but most people had to go through the same thing. You have to remember that most first year University students are going through the same feelings as you, behind every smiling face is a tear. Most people just don’t show their emotions very well.

Like most things in life there will always be pro’s and con’s. What you have to do is make a list, and always look at the pros even if the con’s list is longer, the pro’s might have more meaning. Having a positive outlook on life is usually a very healthy way to live. I know that this year is going to be amazing, but there are going to be some hard times as well. The important thing is to never give up.

Happiness is the key

Life is never just smooth sailing, there are going to be times when things do not go your way, the key to keeping your head above water is to never give up and to remember, it will always be easier to feel joy, and to be disciplined when things are going well and you are winning. You have to try to remain happy and stay disciplined when life is rough. Following your dreams is probably one of the hardest things to do in life, I am going out of my way to follow my dreams, I know that I can and will make it. A great lady once said  “The world is not the most pleasant place. Eventually your parents leave you and nobody is going to go out of their way to protect you unconditionally. You need to learn to stand up for yourself and what you believe and sometimes, pardon my language, kick some ass.” These words ring so true, I know that they are going to help me through some rough seas.

I have been in Pretoria for a little over a week, at first things were hard, it has taken a while but I am finally starting to feel at home, I am even excited about starting University. I know that there are going to be some hard times, but I will make it through. I have people who love me; I know that they would never let anything bad happen to me. It is just a matter of believing and having faith in myself.  My mother has a saying, she never says no, or I can’t, I think it is a good motto to have. Life is always throwing curve balls at you. It is entirely up to you to dodge them or to face them head on. There are moments during the day when I just want to give up, but then what would that make me? I quitter, that is definitely not what I want to be labelled as.  I want to be labelled as the girl that never gave up hope, the girl that went after her dreams and made it big.  Do you have a dream that you are scared to go for? If so, what are you scared of? Remember failure isn’t fatal and success doesn’t last forever, so always try and make yourself happy in everything that you do.  Sometimes you have to take a step back to realise that life is not that bad. Research suggests that nearly 70% of university students feel homesick at some time or other, the important thing to remember is to never go into a hole and never come out. You have to keep busy, even if it’s cleaning or going for a run. Also surround yourself with positive people, and make sure you laugh, it is such a good medicine.

Pretoria

What is the perfect weight

Every day we are bombarded with pictures of models with the perfect body, most of them wearing a shocking size 0.This can go one of two ways.  Either you will see these pictures and do everything in your power to look like those models, or you are so depressed that you don't look like them, that you eat and then you get fat and it becomes harder to look like those models. I was never the pretty, skinny girl, it was only when I took the initiative to start eating better and start working out. I have been doing it for almost 6 months and I feel great. I used to feel so guilty when I would eat certain foods, but now that I do workouts I don't feel so bad.  For most of my teenage life I would have almost all my family telling me how I should do gym, diet and do more exercise. I would agree with them, but until I actual did it for myself, it was never going to work. I have gone to gym,

I joined the hockey team in grade 11 but none of that helped, because I never put 100% into it. This time round I have put myself completely into my fitness. I don't eat bread and cakes. I stay away from ice-cream as much as possible. I eat normally, I just have smaller portions. It is really all about making yourself happy. My mother used to tell that if you are happy then weight doesn't matter, but then I would always think that there was no possible way that a person would be happy being over weight. Having confidence is what makes a person look sexy, and being fit and healthy is what makes a person feel confident. The two come hand in hand and there is never an excuse to not exercise, all it takes is at least twenty minutes a day, an hour is best but start of small and work your way up. Once you start to feel happier you are less likely to eat that piece of chocolate cake. The most important thing in life is to be happy, so if having an extra slice of cake makes you happy, then do it.  Love the skin you are in.